Who I do want to be? Perhaps just to reach this question is already a nice advancement in the direction of your life. This is a very profound matter and I believe that the answer should be non-conceptual but an inner perception instead. First, to be free, liberated, to be able to direct my life. All these should be non-conceptual. If you can do it, they you ARE what you are. Its a sort of !the magic! of life. Just be! By the way, women are better to "love" (as an state of being) and "be". It is better, perhaps, not "to think" but perceive, instead. Enrique.